How to ask for what you want

There are certain ways to ask for and get what you want or need out of life.

The biggest issue most people face is the fact that they are afraid to ask.  The reasons are many, some are afraid of looking needy, others are afraid of looking foolish or stupid.  Mostly they are afraid of rejection. 

The reality is, once you decided not to ask, you are actually rejecting yourself.  When the thought of fear grabs you the next time, you need to ask for what you want.

I want you to remember back when you where a little child.  Children are amazing, they ask and ask and ask until what happens?  They either get what they want or decide they don't want it anymore.  Imagine having that kind of power in your life.  You could each and every time you ask for what you want. 

So in order to get exactly what you want you should stick to a few simple rules:

1.  Ask as if you expect to get it.  Ask with a positive belief.  Ask from the place that has already given it to you, your heart.
2. Assume you can.  Never start with they assumption that you can't.  Assume you will get what you want, whether it is tickets to you favorite baseball game or that raise you've been wanting.
3.  Ask someone who can give it to you.  Ask the question "Who would I have to speak to get what I want?" or "What would have to happen for me to get this?"
4. Be clear and specific.  Don't just ask in generic terms -- be clear.  Don't say I want a raise, do say I want a raise of $500 a month.  If we don't convey what we want, no one will ever know what it is.
5. Ask repeatedly.  Just like the child in the earlier example, you must master persistence.  It is a key component of success.  Just get use to the idea of asking for it over and over again until either you get what you want or decide you don't want it anymore. 

These steps are simple to do and simple not to do, those that adhere to them get things they could not dream possible.  Those who do not adhere never get what they want, so keep asking.  Remember be positive, be real and live your life In The Zone.

David F Muraco is a certified life coach, motivator and radio talk show host who lives in Oneida. In 2004 he founded "In the Zone", a business dedicated to helping people reach their goals. His column runs every Wednesday in the Utica Daily News.  To contact David, email him at davemuraco@in-the-zone.biz or visit his website at http://In-the-zone.biz